6 Common Hidden Agendas that Interfere with Intimacy

intimate coupleWe all do it to some extent—tell stories, make statements or present ourselves in a particular way, in order to create an impression.  We don’t come out and directly say what we want other people to think about us—for example, we may not directly say that we’re smart or that we’re not to blame for our problems, but our motive in telling a particular story or anecdote is to make the point that we are either smart or blameless.

Hidden agendas are a part of everyday communication, but, according to Mathew McKay and colleagues in their book Messages always trying to prove something through your anecdotes and having ulterior motives when you make points and tell stories has a serious impact on your ability to be close to the people around you.

Below are a few of the common hidden agendas identified by McKay and colleagues: Continue reading “6 Common Hidden Agendas that Interfere with Intimacy” »