Can You Talk Your Way Out of Stress?

talk your way out of stressStress plagues a large number of Americans.  The 2010 APA Stress Survey reports that in general Americans view their stress levels as higher than is healthy.  Although most recognize that healthy habits can decrease stress, people in the study experienced challenges in engaging in healthy behaviors.

For many, high stress levels contributed to unhealthy coping behaviors, such as over eating, not getting exercise and sleep problems.

Considering the impact of stress on both the mental and physical functioning of the majority of Americans, it seems important to understand how to reduce stress levels, once a stressor occurs.

Opening up, talking about negative experiences and expressing stress-related thoughts and feelings is central to many psychological theories.  There is a growing body of research linking “opening up” to adjustment.  Expressing stressful experiences is linked to improved physical and mental health, fewer reports of illness and increased positive emotions.

Stressors can challenge your basic (and often optimistic) beliefs about yourself and your world.  If you can’t integrate a stressful experience into your view of the world, you will continue to have intrusive thoughts about the experience.  Constraining expression of stressful thoughts and feelings can increase intrusive thoughts and prolong mental and physical reactions to stress.  And continued intrusive thoughts seem to be an indication of unresolved stressful experiences and a lack of cognitive resolution.

Talking—to a therapist, loved one, supportive friend—aids in your examination, contemplation and evaluation of stressful experiences.  It can help you interpret stressors in a meaningful way and better understand confusing aspects of your experience, ultimately reducing the frequency and intensity of intrusive thoughts connected to stressful experiences.

Disclosure isn’t always associated with positive adjustment.  Who you talk to and the response of that person to your disclosures about your stressful experiences is important.  Talking in a supportive social context will tend to decrease stress and aid in making sense of stressful experiences.   On the other hand, talking in unsupportive or critical social environments can actually increase distress.

Emotional support from friends and family, talk therapy and support groups can all facilitate the process of making sense of stressful experiences.  However, sharing your thoughts and disclosing your experiences in an unsupportive environment dilute and may negate the positive effects of talking.


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3 Replies to “Can You Talk Your Way Out of Stress?”

  1. What a hopeful article. I admit that, as a psychologist, I may be a bit biased about celebrating research that supports the value of talking. 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing this information!

  2. As a minister, I agree that it is very important to be able to have someone to whom you can vent or gain a different perspective about a situation.

    Stress isn’t caused by an event or situation, but by a person’s perception of it. When someone is locked into a negative perception about something, it can be very difficult to turn that perception around. Being able to talk to a person who you trust and respect can be very useful in helping to lessen the stress response.

    Even if the person who you talk to cannot do anything to change the situation, it is important to let the negative feelings out. Verbal venting is similar to journaling. Just the process of releasing negative emotions that are trapped inside, can help an individual think more clearly and constructively.

    Also, when a person is not involved in a situation, she can see aspects of it that the involved person may be blind to. She can then help the ‘stressed out’ person look at it from a more neutral or, even empowering, position.

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