Can you Achieve “Amazing Results in Just Days!”

This is a title of an article I recently came across in a health related magazine.  Amazing results in just days! The attraction of the quick fix is strong, especially when you’re feeling emotional distress.  If you feel worthless, have no appetite, want to stay in bed all day, are extremely emotional or feel tension, anxiety and discomfort wouldn’t it be wonderful to have “amazing results in just days?”

Unfortunately, the quick fix for extreme and intense emotion is often the one that makes the problem worse in the long run.  Drowning your feelings in alcohol, eating excessively to soothe your nerves, smoking, distracting yourself with sex, if you're healthy enough for this, and  if you're not.

To achieve lasting improvement in your mental health and well-being typically takes time, is often incremental and requires a commitment.  So how do you stick with it, when those amazing changes actually take time and hard work?

  • When you lose motivation, don’t quit.  You often need to re-commit to stick with it.
  • Don’t assume a set-back equals failure.  Change is difficult, doesn’t always occur at the pace you hope and strategies sometimes don’t work in the moment.  That doesn’t mean that change is impossible or that treatment won’t work.  You may have to figure out the problem and keep trying.
  • Remember why you originally chose to make a change to improve your life helps maintain commitment over the long haul.
  • People keep commitments they believe in better than those they do not believe in. Remind yourself of prior commitments and why you made them.
  • Remind yourself that you have everything within yourself to overcome problems.

I wish the claims that I so frequently read these days were true.  It would be so easy if change were amazing and quick.  If, for you, it is slow and difficult, don’t give up.  Lasting change might be hard, but it is usually worth the effort.

5 Replies to “Can you Achieve “Amazing Results in Just Days!””

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  3. Wouldn’t it be great if you actually spent time checking out these claims instead of just dismissing them? And to suggest that these claims of instant amazing improvement involved alcohol, drugs, sex or gambling is ridiculous.

    I’ve personally had good success just changing the radio station to some positive sounding tunes in the last few months. Previously I had ignorantly consumed the media I thought I liked. But when I really listened to the lyrics, it was a big downer. So I changed stations to a Christian rock station. And while I do not like all the messages I get from there, by and large they are so much easier to stomach than the depressing lyrics I was used to. I find going to work now is a more uplifting experience, and I am in a good mood for the day.

    Food for thought.

    1. You make a good point. There are many simple, immediate, healthy and effective strategies for improving how you feel. I think your description of turning the radio station is a great example of doing that. What I may not have effectively articulated was my concern about the frequent claims I see that there are fast and easy solutions to all of our problems. For someone struggling with depression, for example, expecting immediate “amazing” change might lead to discouragement when it doesn’t happen.

      Thank you for pointing out that we can improve how we feel, quickly and effectively without resorting to problem behaviors.

  4. There are little things that make a big immediate difference and some of them, as M points out, can be a good start towards lasting change. The thing is that changing the radio station just one time isn’t going to fix anything permanently – it takes persistence and sticking with it to make changes that last.

    Is there a such thing as just plain being too slow and difficult? What if after six years of therapy (granted there were only 11 sessions in the first 2 1/2 years of that, and something went wrong such that the 104 sessions in the remaining 3 1/2 years have been not much more than hoping to find some trust and acceptance that is never there) don’t bring any significant change? I even earned a master’s degree and became a therapist and now I am supposed to have all the answers, but I never get better and people are telling me that I am just choosing to be unhappy and I should know this by now.

    What if you can’t achieve amazing results in a lifetime?

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