A Secret to a Happy Marriage

happy marriagePopular culture in the form of romantic comedies and pop music would lead you to believe that happiness in any relationship comes from finding that special someone whose personality is the perfect counterpart to your own.  However, well-being in relationships is not simply a magical mix of personality characteristics between two people.  Improving and maintaining relationships involves skills that can be learned.

If you want an intimate relationship in which both partners can trust one another and admit vulnerabilities, you might want to try expressing a little gratitude.  The expression of gratitude, it seems, more than other positive acts such as expressing thoughts of positive shared activities, improves your partner’s view of you and creates an open environment within the relationship in which concerns can be expressed. Continue reading “A Secret to a Happy Marriage” »

On Gratitude

finding gratitudeBelow are a few quotes on gratitude.  This time of year, it’s helpful to be mindful of what we have, rather than what we’re missing.

At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.  Albert Schweitzer

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Gratitude

As Thanksgiving approaches, I have begun to think about gratitude and what I have to be thankful for this season.  I have to tear myself away from the daily stack of catalogs we get in the mail and my list of stuff that we would like to give and receive this holiday season. But refocusing attention from what we need, want, don’t have, are lacking or missing to all that we do have can change our outlook and how we feel about ourselves and our world.  Finding and focusing on that for which you are grateful can help you survive suffering or simply improve your day.  The following are some quotes on gratitude that might help you get thinking about what you are grateful for this year.

At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person.
Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.  Albert Schweitzer

Gratefulness is the key to a happy life that we hold in our hands, because if we are not grateful, then no matter how much we have we will not be happy -- because we will always want to have something else or something more. Brother David Steindl-Rast

Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful. Buddha

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude. Denis Waitley

The Pilgrims made seven times more graves than huts. No Americans have been more impoverished than these who, nevertheless, set aside a day of thanksgiving. H.U. Westermayer