Sometimes we all cut some corners to get what we want or need. Want to stay home on a beautiful day after a long winter? Call in sick. Don’t want to cook dinner? Act like you don’t know how. It’d be easier if someone else were helping you with a project? Exaggerate the difficulty.
Have you ever compromised your values to smooth out a conflict? Been worried about how someone would judge you and pretended not to hold important ideals? Have you lied or glossed over the truth out of fear of rejection?
We all smooth over the truth and bend in our standards or principles from time to time in order to reduce conflict and make relationships work. But if pleasing others becomes a habit and smoothing over disagreements and arguments becomes more important than your own personal beliefs, you may find that you’re compromising your self-respect.
It’s possible to lose sight of your values slowly, over time. If you’ve had negative experiences with confrontation, one concession may lead to another, until you’re no longer sure where you’re values lie. Continue reading “Have You Lost Your Self Respect?” »
It can be so easy to compromise ourselves. It happens in just a moment, with the smallest action.
You skip a class because you know you can get away with it. You claim sickness and avoid a tough day, even though you know you could have made it. You turn a blind eye towards someone’s self destructive behavior because you don’t want the conflict if you tell them you think they’re wrong. You give in to a friend’s request, even though you are tired and really need to take care of yourself. You don’t stand up for yourself because you’re afraid the other person will belittle you.
Sometimes we do things that get us what we want or need, like lying or acting helpless, or giving in to someone else so we don’t create an argument. In the short run lies and giving in work to avoid problems or get us what we need, but in the long run, they make us feel worse about ourselves. Continue reading “Leading a Life That Makes You Proud” »