Change: One of Life’s Constants or Impossible to Achieve

According to one of the central dialectical tenets of DBT, change is the nature of life.  Everything is in a constant state of change.

I can accept the idea of constant change and see it in the world all around me.  Seasons change, children grow, friendships strengthen or grow more distant.  We move, get older, experience health problems, fall in love, recover from sickness, lose loved ones, graduate from school and so on.  But sometimes those things we most wish to change, seem to stay the same.

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Why Can’t I Get Off The Couch? 4 Tips for Starting an Exercise Program that Lasts

We’re surrounded by information about the benefits of exercise, but many of use still have trouble incorporating regular exercise into our lives.  Although we know it’s good for our body’s and more and more studies point to it’s benefits for our mental health, we often still don’t make it a habit.

The following are 4 tips to start an exercise program that you will stick to.

  1. Start slow.  You might want to see results quickly, but starting a new exercise program by exercising so hard that during exercise you find it hard to talk you can postpone the mood boost that accompanies exercise by as much as 30 minutes.  This is enough time to make many people give up exercise for good.
  2. Focus on “feeling good” mentally, rather than on the physical results.  Exercise releases endorphins, which are natural chemicals in the brain associated with positive mood.  The effects of endorphins on mood occur immediately following exercise.  In contrast, physical changes can take weeks and months—too long to maintain motivation.
  3. Choose exercise that you like.  Making the actual process of exercising pleasant makes it much more likely that you will make the time for it and continue, even when life gets busy.
  4. Engage in positive self-talk.  When it comes to exercise, we often focus on what we haven’t done, rather than what we have.  Instead of punishing yourself for your failings (“I didn’t do a full hour today”) praise yourself for what you did accomplish (“I managed to fit 15 minutes into a busy day”).

Starting new habits are never easy. But once you get started, exercising regularly can help you maintain a positive outlook and improve your overall sense of well-being.

 

 

Are Your Finances a Mess? Money and Emotion

problem behavior, problem financesDo you want to change problem behaviors that leave you financially unstable?

People perceive, value and treat money differently.  But regardless of how you interact with it, hiring a financial advisor to take care of your finances is crucial at any point in your life.  Money and your financial circumstances play a major role in your life.  Money can provide security, freedom and power and lack of it can leave you feeling inadequate and trapped in undesirable circumstances. If you are having difficulty dealing with your debts and other financial concerns, you may want to consider debt consolidation.

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