“If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher.” - Pema Chodron
Mindfulness usually focuses on finding peace and experiencing life in the moment with all its turbulence, pain and joy. But how can you be fully present in the moment when someone is driving you crazy? How do you let go of the anger and resentment? The following is a meditation designed to help you gain understanding, compassion and peace with the person you hate or despise the most.
Sit quietly. Get centered in your breathing. Imagine the person who has caused you the most suffering. Think about what you hate or despise the most or find the most repulsive about this person. Examine what makes them happy and what causes them pain and suffering in their daily life. Imagine this person’s perceptions of the world. Try to see their patterns of thought or reason. Think about what motivates their hopes and actions. See whether their views are open or closed and whether they are influenced by prejudices, narrow-mindedness, hatred, or anger. Think of whether the person is ruled by their fears and prejudices. Continue until you feel compassion towards this person and your anger and resentment fade away. Practice many times on the same person.